Sunday, January 15, 2012
Thursday, January 12, 2012
How to love?
Love is both an action and a feeling. The action of love generates a blissful feeling called by the same name. When the action stops, the blissful feeling is replaced with pain. There is a similar feeling called lust which may be confused with love. You need to decipher between the two in order to have a healthy heart. Every person is capable of great love (and its opposite, fear, which generates all painful emotions such as hate, greed and jealousy).
While there are many different ways to define love and there are many different ways to love someone (or even yourself), here is a general guide to loving.
Steps
1 Know it. First of all you should know you like someone or not.
2 Watch. see if the one you are interested in is engaged with someone else, if yes then wait till they break up or leave him, if not then see he/she too likes you or not.
3 Say it. Say it. When you say the words "I Love You", they should carry with them the desire to show someone that you love them, not what you simply want to feel. When you say it, make sure you really mean it and are willing to do anything for that special person.
4 Empathize. Put yourself in someone else's shoes. Rather than impose your own expectations or attempt to control them, to understand how they feel, where they come from, and who they are. Realize how they could also love you back just as well.
5 Love unconditionally. If you cannot love another person without attaching stipulations, then it is not love at all, but deep-seated opportunism (one who makes the most of an advantage, often unmindful of others). If your interest is not in the other person as such, but rather in how that person can enhance your experience of life, then it is not unconditional. If you have no intention of improving that person’s life, or allowing that person to be themselves and accepting them as they are, and not who you want them to be, then you are not striving to love them unconditionally.
6 Expect nothing in return. That doesn't mean you should allow someone to mistreat or undervalue you. It means that giving love does not guarantee receiving love. Try loving just for the sake of love. Realize that someone may have a different way of showing his or her love for you; do not expect to be loved back in exactly the same way.
7 Realize it can be lost. Realize it can be lost. If you realize that you can lose the one you love, then you have a greater appreciation of what you have. Think how lucky you are to have someone to love. Don't make an idol of the person you love. This will place them under undue pressure and will likely result in you losing them.
8 Never stop loving. Even if you have been hurt before you should not stop giving love.
While there are many different ways to define love and there are many different ways to love someone (or even yourself), here is a general guide to loving.
Steps
1 Know it. First of all you should know you like someone or not.
2 Watch. see if the one you are interested in is engaged with someone else, if yes then wait till they break up or leave him, if not then see he/she too likes you or not.
3 Say it. Say it. When you say the words "I Love You", they should carry with them the desire to show someone that you love them, not what you simply want to feel. When you say it, make sure you really mean it and are willing to do anything for that special person.
4 Empathize. Put yourself in someone else's shoes. Rather than impose your own expectations or attempt to control them, to understand how they feel, where they come from, and who they are. Realize how they could also love you back just as well.
5 Love unconditionally. If you cannot love another person without attaching stipulations, then it is not love at all, but deep-seated opportunism (one who makes the most of an advantage, often unmindful of others). If your interest is not in the other person as such, but rather in how that person can enhance your experience of life, then it is not unconditional. If you have no intention of improving that person’s life, or allowing that person to be themselves and accepting them as they are, and not who you want them to be, then you are not striving to love them unconditionally.
6 Expect nothing in return. That doesn't mean you should allow someone to mistreat or undervalue you. It means that giving love does not guarantee receiving love. Try loving just for the sake of love. Realize that someone may have a different way of showing his or her love for you; do not expect to be loved back in exactly the same way.
7 Realize it can be lost. Realize it can be lost. If you realize that you can lose the one you love, then you have a greater appreciation of what you have. Think how lucky you are to have someone to love. Don't make an idol of the person you love. This will place them under undue pressure and will likely result in you losing them.
8 Never stop loving. Even if you have been hurt before you should not stop giving love.
Tuesday, January 10, 2012
Sick
I really want to see you tonight, I don't know it is really because I am sick, or I just really miss you. I have't see you for 14 days already.
You told me you will come on the weekends, but today is only Tuesday, you want me to be alone, sick, sad and missing you till weekends? Do you know how sad I would be, how sick I would be, do you know how many tears it would be?
Where is the person that felt sorry about won't able to stay with me while I am sick? Where is the person who told me I am the person he loves the most?
What should I do? Can you tell me?
You told me you will come on the weekends, but today is only Tuesday, you want me to be alone, sick, sad and missing you till weekends? Do you know how sad I would be, how sick I would be, do you know how many tears it would be?
Where is the person that felt sorry about won't able to stay with me while I am sick? Where is the person who told me I am the person he loves the most?
What should I do? Can you tell me?
Monday, January 9, 2012
i n 55!w！
Why there are so many movie about past love? Do we really miss our past love so much? Do we always think we will meet our ex again? What will happen?
Monday, January 2, 2012
Sunday, January 1, 2012
打破了的杯
我相信緣份，五年後我們再次見面，再次擁抱，我覺得是有原因．一個將近一年無寫的Blog又再次為你而寫．
你還記得我跟你說我打破了－隻我做给你的杯嗎？
其實那晚我實在太難過了，所以故意把它打破．但看到它變成碎片那刻我的心只有更庝．．．
那晚我把那隻杯黏好，放在桌上．
第二天你看到了，但一句話也沒説．你是故意假裝看不到還是不在乎？
「我把－隻我做给你的杯打破了」
「做一隻新的吧」
「新的不一様的」
........................
「昨晚我把那隻杯黏好」
「為甚麽？它已不能用，水只會流出來」 是指我跟你嗎？打破了的杯已不能復完嗎？
「新的不一様的」
「扔掉吧」
「我不捨得」
........................
五日後
五天沒有見你，多想跟你說．．．我想你．你甚麽都不用给我，就只给我一個緊緊的擁抱吧！
我用了五天的時間想，我想到那隻杯載的不是水而是我對你的思念，所以我把它黏回來．
你還記得我跟你說我打破了－隻我做给你的杯嗎？
其實那晚我實在太難過了，所以故意把它打破．但看到它變成碎片那刻我的心只有更庝．．．
那晚我把那隻杯黏好，放在桌上．
第二天你看到了，但一句話也沒説．你是故意假裝看不到還是不在乎？
「我把－隻我做给你的杯打破了」
「做一隻新的吧」
「新的不一様的」
........................
「昨晚我把那隻杯黏好」
「為甚麽？它已不能用，水只會流出來」 是指我跟你嗎？打破了的杯已不能復完嗎？
「新的不一様的」
「扔掉吧」
「我不捨得」
........................
五日後
五天沒有見你，多想跟你說．．．我想你．你甚麽都不用给我，就只给我一個緊緊的擁抱吧！
我用了五天的時間想，我想到那隻杯載的不是水而是我對你的思念，所以我把它黏回來．
Thursday, June 16, 2011
Another Year
Cancucks game and after all the madness, I realize it's actually another year. Time can really wash away feelings and memories of sadness...
It a little too late, but still happy birthday to someone who appeared in my life.
It a little too late, but still happy birthday to someone who appeared in my life.
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